Steps to success

1. Sincerity - Be yourself, and do what you feel is right based on your values and beliefs. You will be surprised at how people accept you when you stop trying to be someone you aren’t.

2. Unfeigned - Be genuine in what you do; your actions speak louder than your words. Don’t say one thing and do the other.

3. Wholehearted - Be enthusiastic about what you do.Be committed to life and everything that you set out to accomplish in life.

4. Honest - Be honest in your dealings with yourself and with others. Do what you say you will do and never use fraud or deception to get ahead in life.

5. Heartfelt - When you do something for someone, or they do something for you, let your thanks and emotion be openly and outwardly expressed towards them.

6. Humility - Don’t lead a life thinking you are better than others or are superior to those around you. Modesty and humbleness will leave a far more ever lasting impact on people than trying to show off.

7. Personal integrity - Always follow your heartfelt values, and never let a situation or anyone steer you away from doing what you know is right. Be someone that people can look up to and respect and not someone who trades his or her moral values for material gains in life.

8. Incorruptibility - Let it be known that you stand firm for what you believe in and that your morals, values and actions are not for sale. Don’t let outside forces corrupt the person you are.

9. Sound - Show good judgment and sense in life. Don’t let prejudices or emotions cloud your judgment.

10. Courtesy - Graciousness and respect go a long way in life. Be kind to others and extend courtesy towards them. Don’t interrupt people when they speak and don’t dominate the conversation.

11. Wisdom - Gain from the wisdom that is inside you. Understand the inner qualities of people and learn how to understand situations that might be different than we are used to.

12. Charity - Learn to extend a hand to help others, even though they themselves may not have helped you.

13. Empathy - Be aware that each person is different and may have different values and beliefs than those that you hold. Be understanding of the feelings and thoughts of others without having to be told or reminded of them.

14. Sympathy - Share your feelings with others and understand the emotional situations that people go through. Put yourself in their shoes.

15. Altruism - Think of others without thinking of yourself. Do good things for people without expecting something in return for yourself.

16. Magnanimous - Be generous in life. Give of your time, money and wisdom. Share with others so they can see the true joy and adventures of life themselves.

17. Humorous (A MUST) - Always see the funny side of everything in any situations!

The journey (03-Oct-13)

All this while I thought I knew almost everything about life. But this journey towards just preparing for the wedding, opened my eyes to many things which was right in front of me, that at times I failed to appreciate. I saw  those who love me for who I am, stood by me, giving me all the support and strength when I needed it most.  At the same time, I also saw the other side of those same people, being defensive, inconsiderate and irrational when it comes to some of their decisions.

Frustration can be caused by various speech, action and feelings resulting in various speech, action and feelings. The root cause of this frustration many at times is hard to be highlighted due to family ties.

Having experienced a few incidents throughout this wedding preparation has made me realize this and accept it that unfortunately this is the case in my life now. I don’t have a choice but to learn how to manage this and at the same time ensure that decisions made for me and my partner are solely our call and never influenced by either side of family,

1 more month for our engagement and 4 more months towards the wedding. More challenges coming our way as it gets closer. I only pray that my partner and I will continue to have the strength we have and also stick to each other as a team without taking sides of either party. This would be our 1^st challenge as we take our big leap into ‘marriage’ along with hopefully lesser challenges after this.

But it makes perfect sense now when people say... ’marriage aint easy’ but working together as team makes it 'perfect'!

A year wiser? (13-Sep-2013)

I am officially 28. What have I learnt?

1. There are more less meaningful souls and I will be selfish with those I have stumbled upon
2. Avoid unnecessary elements in your peaceful circle of life
3. Your mind is the master of all
4. Unfortunately (or fortunately), the emotions over rule it off and on
5. The word ‘Care-free’ is non-existent. Even if it does, it is erased by life’s commitment
6. And somehow it is a must to have commitments for every living soul (This, I hope to understand before 29)
7. Art is GOD
8. You get to become an Art Lecturer Berlin University, a psycho-eccentric tattooed investigator in Sweden, a famous lady designer in Paris…all in a day, by just READING!
9.  Love = the bridge built with your partner. The stronger it is, the more perfect it becomes
10.  Relationship = what turned out to be the purpose of life

Art at its best (17 July 2013)

As it gets closer, I am able to see all that I have to let go off in life which used to be what I only had in life. Music  and dance.  I fear that it would not make any logic to spend some money or time on art. I miss everything I see in those feet that lifts itself from the ground the moment it touches it, the eyes which speaks unheard words from the heart…the sense or supremacy the dancer portrays, being above any ordinary living being. I see god in these gifted people. Expressing ones-self through art is a gift which is not felt by everyone….I hope someday, before I leave this world I will be closer to god through this art.

Less of Us (22-Aug-2013)

In a huge crowded room, you find only 1 or 2 or maybe none attractive. When I say ‘attractive’, I do not mean physically but the vibes sent out. Either you are in the wrong room, or all the rooms are infested with those categories of specimens.

Human beings have lost their capability to see beyond material objects. They live only at the surface probably due to the fear of unveiling the truth way below what feels like the most perfect life they believe they live in. There are 3 levels of human beings in this world.

1. Those who choose to live according to the norm. They follow an unwritten process of life oblivious to what lies beneath it. They see black and white and nothing more. They see what they see, feel what they feel, they hear what they hear. They believe that happiness is achieved only when the invisible rules of the society is followed.
2.  The supreme beings that devote themselves to charity, god, social activities, and art (you name it).
3. Those caught in between and somehow joins group #1 since they are left with no better choice.

Where words fail, music speaks

I pen down my thoughts when I have words to speak but no ears to listen. I write when I realize people around me have lost their substance. I write when I feel that only these words are willing to accept my thoughts. Words written and read are the most remarkable creation of human beings. Without words, expressing one’s self is merely impossible.

Yet, ‘Where words fail, music speaks’- Hans Christian Andersen, Danish author & poet